There was a discussion going on with my friends on the current chaotic world especially in the world of man and woman relationships. One of them asked me, “What exactly do you think as the reason of the increased number of illicit relationships, divorces and all”?
It is an easier question to answer this is the problem of the society, that, this and the change of culture anything. But I had a deep thinking. “Okay, what is the reason?” I put on the question to my mind itself. In these increased number of divorces and relationship breakups, only few are genuine cases. Please no question of what is here genuine. If a person cannot tolerate, the physical and mental torture of his/her partner, say abusive behavior, physical stunts, unfaithfulness in anything, especially in sexual intimacy, that happens in due relationship without proper understanding, few cases among this becomes genuine. Absolutely intolerable; I name only few.
But if there is a ratio 45 out 100 cases are filed for breakup then it means, people are so discontented with the relationships they have now. They get into relationship without knowing the true nature of Love and relationship. The mass media today imposes lots of different kinds of relationships including homo sexualities, all kinds of erotica etc..,
Increase of love and sex experts, who asks you date or have relationship with any number of human beings or even animals, calling itself the human liberalism, the power of the sixth sense of rationalism, the damn society defines its own structure. Woman’s side calls it the liberation with a statement “Women are no longer slaves of men”. Other side calls it we don’t want opposite gender, same gender is enough for both thoughts and sex. It is all about the partnership. So with which I have to justify my answer for this question, if there is an answer though.
Today there is an increased exposure for men and women to contact others; mobiles, social networking, e-mails, texts anything we can name it. Anybody can share anything, have a second virtual life. The actual life is to live as it is and accept whatever in reality. There is no true meaning of "Married". If anybody takes any religious text for any other purpose of guidance of life and leave ignorantly this case, I will severely condemn them, because they have no eligibility to hold any sacred text or follow them. It is like deceiving GOD.
Bible says
Matthew 19:4-6An institution of marriage is all about an intimate interpersonal relationship, where both the partners will share everything under the world. It is the necessity of security for both of them. Underline the word I called as “Partners”. When I name it like that there is no question of equality or liberation. That is already there. Just think about it clearly.
"Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,'
and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'?
So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."
Genesis 2:23
“This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman' for she was taken out of man.”
“I have something good or bad to tell you, I want to share with you, I want to share all my happiness and sorrow with you, I want to share my bodily feelings with you, I want to share my thoughts with you, the thoughts about anything under the world. I want to share all my feelings not only that of happening in bed. But all”, this is what the exact expectation of a husband and wife relationship, huh.. a life partnership. Then, there comes the thought of giving birth and nurturing children. First is “You and Me”, isn’t it? Sharing between that you and me, and the babies are the result of that joyful conjugal bliss, a gift for that pleasure. But what is happening today is this sharing is not exactly with “You and Me”, but it is like “I have somebody else to say it so, share them. It is You, but still there are others, if you fail to respond properly, if you fail to satisfy my needs, if you disappoint me in any case, then I will use that others”. The statement here made by the couples is there are others and that happens because of the misuse of the technological devices for all nonsense called sharing the intimacy without knowing the true meaning of it.
There is another group, in which the individuals have good relationship, joyful life, good partner, but still seeking pleasure outside. It is because their mind is conditioned with such things watching movies, pornography, adult movies, and seduction through friends. This is a dangerous case. All this kind of non-sense happens only because there is no proper understanding of this wonderful, magnificent “Intimate relationship”. If any one of the partner fails in this understanding there rises a trauma in the relationship. It happens all around and finally we add up names like “I have friends to share it with, I have somebody else to share it with” all ending in the ideology of this so called “ILLICIT” relationships.
Jesus Christ warns something about Divorce, he is saying in Bible, Divorce is allowed only if there is a sexual unfaithfulness between partners.
Matthew 19:9
I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.
If that is the case, the increased number of divorces and this kind of relationships indicates what? It states that Divorce in the genuine case of failing the true intimacy especially in sexual faithfulness which is bound for all kind of faithfulness in this life partnership, is okay, but the other causes have to be reconsidered.
Now putting and grinding all this in my mind, I really mess up something, upset something, So when do people are going to know the exact meaning of this wonderful “relationship” of “Flesh and Bone”?
The actual fact is even if one don't understand the meaning, that is a +1 in the case of divorces or another relationship.
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